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A Letter to an Incoming D.S.–Part 4

This is a continuing letter to a friend of my who was recently named as a new District Superintendent in his annual conference. You can read earlier installments, here, here, and here.

Dear _______,

I’ve spent some time on building relationships, which is a key component of your new job. In a sense, my next suggestion is an extension of that work, for it better helps you to navigate the specific contexts of ministry settings and avoid making sweeping generalizations about pastors and their congregations.

4. Do your homework and learn all you can about your churches AND their surrounding communities.

In the face of all the demands that will be placed on you, finding time to do research will be difficult, if not impossible, but do it anyway. Ultimately this will help you avoid the pitfall of failing to understand the struggles of a particular minister and or his/her congregation. More important, knowing your churches and their neighborhoods allows you to make decisions about district emphases and ministerial deployments from a missional perspective rather than an institutional one. It’s far too easy to fall into the trap of seeing congregations as cogs in the denominational wheel rather than unique, organic communities with their own gifts and idiosyncrasies.  Churches (and pastors too) become pawns in the difficult chess game that is the itinerant system, and I’ve seem issues of salary and church size play far too large a role in making decisions than missional concerns.

One of my D.S.’s began his tenure by scheduling an hour long meeting with every pastor in the district simply to have the pastor give them a tour of the facilities and to tell them about the church. This is certainly a good starting point, and if you ask the right questions you can learn much from the pastor. While the metrics of Vital Congregations are helpful, there are so many other questions that I would want to ask to gain a better sense of the congregation. That would include budget struggles, facility issues, the way the congregation deals with conflict, and the self-perception of the congregation. I would also want to know if the pastor has a reasonable grasp on the demographics of the community in which the church is located.

I mention the last point because I continue to be shocked by the number of my colleagues that have very little grasp on the community around them. Due to relationships in the church, they have a narrow sense of who is who in the neighborhood, but many have no concept whether the community is growing or not, whether the community is experiencing change, what the ethnic/racial breakdown of the community is, or any of a number of factors that would help them better reach out. They often have anecdotal generalizations of a community, but those are often disconnected from the reality on the ground.

Take my last appointment. As you know, the community that I served was one of the most ethnically diverse in our city. Everyone tended to point to the rapid growth of the Hispanic community, which was indeed growing by leaps and bounds. However what was often overlooked was a large and growing African American middle class population. Several predominantly black mega-churches were planting satellites in the area with great success, but the United Methodist Church was so fixated on the tales of Hispanic growth, they totally missed the need for a United Methodist presence in the black community and missed out on several opportunities to develop ministry in that area. While this was my parish and I tried to address the concerns as I could (being the fat, un-dynamic white guy that I am), this was a place where the D.S. and Bishop should be aware of growth trends in their district and working with the local clergy to address those trends, including initiating new ministries to meet community needs.

Or take my current appointment at a church that has gone from 1000 members in the 50’s and 60’s to a worshipping congregation of about a hundred. One might attribute the decline to the drop in mainline influence or a congregation that had lost its sense of mission (both of which may be true) but it helps to know that this church was built as part of a company town by a large chemical company which during the 50’s and 60’s had over 5,000 employees a mile from the church. With the decline of that business came a decline of the overall community, including the church. Thus we have a smaller base to draw on and in fact are comparable with other area congregations as we have to re-tool to a new community reality.

Of course, there is more to know than demographics. It probably is important to know who the matriarchs and patriarchs are in each church (people who have power regardless of any official office or title). It’s probably good to keep up with the history of previous appointments, which has an unbelievable impact on current success in ministry (says the pastor who served in one congregation in which a bad pastoral appointment led to a huge split in the church with over half of the congregation leaving, and who serves in another which had four single year appointments in a row prior to the appointment of my predecessor). What you are needing is to get a better sense of what makes a church tick, and what issues in the community may effect their ministry in the world.

I recognize that maintaining records on this data is a logistical nightmare. I could envision a notebook with a profile of every congregation including some of the data above, but with 80+ churches, that could be unwieldy. I think what I would try to do know is to create folders in Evernote, a great internet based note taking/filing program and keep all the data in the cloud so that I could access from my IPad or phone. All I know is that you will have to develop some means of keeping up with a plethora of information that helps you to know your churches and their communities.

A Letter to an Incoming D.S.–Part 3

A Letter to an Incoming D.S. – Part 1
A Letter to an Incoming D.S. – Part 2

Dear _______,

I’ve spent some time talking about the relational side of your new job, and the more I think about it the more convinced that it all comes down to relationships. In a very real way, you are pastoring “a church” with 80+ members (your pastors) and their extended families (their congregations). Just as pastoral work involves the marriage of leadership and care, your new task requires you to walk that fine line between being in front of the district so that folks will be moving forward, but not so far out in front (separated from the congregation) that you have no personal connection to those you lead. Thus, much of the advice I offer is common sense for most pastors, but for some reason it sometimes seems forgotten when folks move into the district office. This leads to my third suggestion, which should seem obvious, but for some reason often seems elusive to some:

3. Always tell the truth, even when it’s hard.

Several years ago I was transitioning from one appointment to a new place. At the time both Kay and I were on housing allowances and we were living in a house that we had purchased a few years before. When I met with the D.S. and the SPRC in the new location, I learned that they had a parsonage, and when I asked if we might stay in our own home I quickly learned that some political turmoil related to the parsonage a few years earlier made that a bad idea, and that if I was to have a viable ministry we would need to live in the parsonage. That was a difficult blow for us, but part of what we live under, so we decided to drive out to the neighborhood to see the parsonage. It was a wonderful house (probably the nicest house we will ever live in) but we discovered that it was not only several miles from the church I would be serving (with heavy traffic in between) but out at the county line requiring a very long commute for Kay into the downtown church that she served. It was going to be a hardship, and before we committed we decided to talk to the D.S.

During the entire meeting he attempted a sales job on us. “Oh the parsonage isn’t that far out,” he told us. “You can zoom on this or that road and be downtown in no time.” And yes, he told us, the church HAD been through some conflict, but it had huge potential and was a plum appointment. “Everything will be great,” he told us.

Now Kay and I have been around church politics long enough to know a sales job, and frankly we were disappointed because what we needed was the truth, not a sales pitch. We needed the D.S. to say: “Yes, I know this is difficult and an inconvenience, but we believe Jay has the skills to move this congregation forward and we believe that it’s what we need to do. I’m sorry for the hardship, but in this case it’s necessary.” What we needed was an honest assessment and recognition of the situation, not some sort of attempt to make things sound better than they really were. And honestly, if he had told us the truth, our commitment to the church is strong enough that we would have said okay and still done what we did – make the best of a difficult circumstance.

I’m not sure what the drug is that they give D.S.’s when they enter that role, but I continue to be surprised at friends who fall into the “conflict avoidance” mode when they become D.S.’s, and who end up being less than honest about their dealings. I understand that there are issues of confidentiality and knowledge of topics that the cabinet has which are not ready for broad publication, but rather than providing fuzzy answers when asked, it’s always better to simply say “I can’t talk about that yet . . . or at all.”

Part of the issue, I imagine, is that you are thrust suddenly into a different type of relationship with folks who have been your friends and colleagues. For years (in many cases) you have been one among the masses gathered together grumbling about the leadership above, only to find yourself now as that authority figure what everyone is suspicious of. We all want to be liked, and truth telling can be hard when it puts us in conflict with our friends, so we find ourselves drawn to obfuscation, or trying to put a positive spin on every decision rather than fully admitting that there are times when we simply have to do difficult things.

I think that truth telling applies in both your relationships with pastors AND congregations. One of the struggles that our connection has faced has been the unwillingness of leaders to hold a mirror up to a congregation and help them face the realities around them. There are times when they need to be told that while life was great in the 1950’s, it’s time for them to become relevant to the new dynamics of their communities or face extinction. There are also times when you may have to admit that the person you are appointing to their church may not be everything they want and need, but that it’s who is available and that you both need to give him or her a fighting chance to succeed. What would it mean to a congregation to know that their task is to not be wowed by their new pastor, but rather that they were being asked by the denomination to raise up this man or woman so that they could become an effective leader?

Now I confess (as evidenced by this blog) that I am one who errs on the side of transparency. I believe in being open and honest about our dealings . . . maybe to a fault. But in our postmodern world, openness and transparency are values that are increasingly more important, especially with younger generations who are unwilling to blindly follow those in authority without some sense of where they are being led. Truth-telling builds relational trust that leads to growth and transformation.

So tell the truth . . .

And to paraphrase the Gospel of Thumper, “…if you can’t tell the truth, then don’t say nothing at all.”